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Resolution To Make Experiences Count
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Resolution To Make Experiences Count. Excitedly I got my pen and paper out ready to write another list. The new, more organized, fitter, thinner, better parent version of me. Then I drew a deep breath and stopped. What was I doing, giving myself overload and overwhelm, that’s what! Our dreams of wanting to be the ideal version of ourselves are admirable and, let’s be honest, can not all be added to our busy schedules. Don’t set yourself up to fail.

Stop for a moment, think of all you do and I bet there is a fair percentage of things you would pop on a chores list. We all have them. Imagine what you would say to yourself when you are older, your energy levels are not what they used to be and time becomes precious. What baby steps can you take this year to ensure you have no regrets.

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Promise Not To Look Back And Say

  • Wish I had let myself be happier and laugh more
  • I Should never have worked so hard
  • Why didn’t I stay in touch with my friends?
  • I would have loved to be brave enough to live MY life, not the life others expected of me
  • Would it have been so difficult to express my feelings?

So, consider what you should be thinking about right now. What needs to happen in 2020 to make you happy and not look back with regrets. Too busy doesn’t really cut it if “being busy” doesn’t enrich you, or your little VIP’s, as people.

family feeding goats at Farmer Palmers

Invest in purpose and passions, not possessions

With climate change, we are all considering how we can do our bit to help save the planet. A change is coming. In the 1980s & 1990s, we used to think that anyone could find happiness as long as they could buy their heart’s desires. Consumerism was out of control, everyone trying to get the big house, a better car or a mobile phone!

At the start of a new decade, make your 2020 resolution to make experiences count and leave some of the material things behind. Make your hard-earned money grow into memories and shared experiences, not things. It is becoming outdated that objects bring happiness.

“One of the enemies of happiness is adaptation. We buy things to make us happy, and we succeed. But only for a while. New things are exciting to us at first, but then we adapt to them. Think back to the feelings of anticipation between getting experience and obtaining a possession. The responsibility of waiting for, or getting a possession only causes impatience and stress, whereas the anticipation for an experience caused excitement and enjoyment.” says Professor Dr. Gilovich

In other words, having the new iPhone may put a smile on your face, or a massive shopping spree may make you excited, but the novelty will quickly fade; all those possessions won’t be exciting, they will just be normal. New purchases only lead to new expectations and not true happiness. The moment something new became ordinary, people were already moving on.

mother and child sharing an experience at Farmer Palmers

Sharing Experiences for Your Future

Experiences never fade to the mundane, but people tire of objects. Enduring happiness comes from stepping outside of your everyday routine.   Try something new, a day trip, explore somewhere you have not been before. Imagine swimming in the sea or working towards that first 5K.

In fact, those experiences become part of you. Your identity is not defined by your possessions but is actually an accumulation of the places you’ve been, lessons you’ve learned, and the experiences you’ve had. Buying something new won’t be a life-changing event, but giving your children educational experiences from fun will stay with them forever.

“Our experiences are a bigger part of ourselves than our material goods. You can really proud of your material stuff, believing part of your identity is connected to those things. They still remain separate from you. In contrast, your experiences really are part of you. We are the sum total of our experiences.”

mug of hot chocolate at Farmer Palmers

The Excitement Of Anticipation

Kids have no inhibitions when it comes to uncontrollable excitement. As we get older we learn through risk and social acceptance to control this. We even envy the friends who still jump around like a box of frogs when they book something they really want to do. As adults, we often decide to avoid unfamiliar environments or experiences. The worry usually is not very valid, and science finds the risk is almost always worth it. Children learn through experience and a little risk.

 

Two young children sharing an ice cream on the lawn at Farmer Palmer's

 

 

 

 

 

Experiences are Social

They connect us with family and friends which makes them worth so much more than any object. People are interested when your experiences might be something they would like to try too. This makes you “fun specialist” who can live in the moment

It’s The Way You Tell It

Memories and stories only get better over time. You should cherish experiences from the moment you start planning them to the afterglow you are left with. Your recollections and stories of your experiences create bonds with others in a deep and meaningful way.

 

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Resolution To Make Experiences Count – Sandra Palmer-Snellin